Court results

Well Randy had court this morning and it definitely did not go as planned. Background: He met Carrie in Aug of 06. They got married Oct 06, they split before Thanksgiving 06. She got knocked up by another guy mid Dec 06.

In Jan 07 she filed a spousal support petition and he was supposed to go to court in July of 07 for the ruling. Being in a halfway house, he didn’t. He could’ve been granted permission to leave, done it over the phone, etc.. but he didn’t. They defaulted against him for the amount of $75/week. He got this notice in prison which he was in from Nov 30, 07 until Dec 1, 08. He ended up filing a paternity petition while in to contest that along with a divorce, which never went through due to the paternity issue taking months to resolve. He filed AGAIN for divorce in Dec 08 and it was finally granted in June of 09.

According to the judge, when the divorce was finalized the order was nullified. Since he didn’t file a petition before this time period he is responsible for retroactive spousal support from the period of Jan 07 until May of 09 which is close to 2 1/2 years. At $75/week, it adds up real quick. Nevermind that she had a kid by another man. Or that he never worked once during the entire marriage or relationship whatsoever. Or that he was serving time in prison for a year. Because he didn’t go to court 1 day he is expected to pay that stupid cunt bag over $10,000 for being a whore.

Thanks NY. You really make a lot of fucking sense. She tried saying today they were still married and we had to get an adjournment for 1/2 hr to go pay $12 to get a copy of the divorce from the clerk there. We also had to drive an hour and a half each way to the court house. Poor little Carrie, the victim. She was saying on the way out “I still get money” to someone. It pisses me off because we’re struggling as it is and now she is getting his hard earned money when she doesn’t deserve a goddamned penny of it, especially considering the circumstances. There is nothing he can do to appeal it either because he didn’t show up for court that 1 day (which was 2 1/2 hours away from the HH but that doesn’t matter either apparently).

5 words

Thanks again for all the opinions on what to do regarding the baby shower. I talked to my mom about my concerns and she shared them. While we were at Walmart we began browsing around and she pretty much confirmed she is going to buy me a bassinet we saw and liked which will work for the short term. A P&P is something we’ll get once she starts being mobile. My aunt Luann also has a crib I *might* be getting depending upon circumstances we’ll find out today. That covers that issue and as far as everything else, you’re right it doesn’t hurt to stock up and I don’t really need lotion and such the day she’s home. We can get it within a reasonable time frame if it’s an issue.

While I’m blogging I figured I’d do the 5 words thing that is going around. Angela gave them to me 2 weeks ago and I hadn’t gotten around to blogging about them yet.

Marriage
Marriage is something I find very important to two people. This isn’t a religious reason but the fact that two people have decided to be joined together *hopefully* forever. The legal benefits aren’t too shabby either and I worried before Randy got married about them especially regarding his work health insurance and medical issues if something were to come up during birth, etc. We were planning on it anyways and we figured now was as good of a time as any and I’m glad we were able to throw it together so quickly with the help of my family who did the majority of organizing.

Pets
Pets are like kids. They’re family and are treated as such. We spoil our dog rotten. He sleeps with us, travels with us, and has free roam of the house to pretty much do what he pleases within reason. We almost didn’t move out when we did due to not being able to find a place that allowed him but we weren’t giving up. I find it very sad to see so many people give up pets for whatever reason. I wouldn’t throw out my child due to an issue and I definitely wouldn’t my pet. Currently, he’s curled up napping with his daddy.

Education
Education is something I’m not so sure about. It’s great to be knowledgeable about subjects but I feel too much stress is placed on being book smart and having a degree as opposed to knowing a trade or skill. I am book smart, my husband is not for example. He struggles with typical things, especially math and reading. However, he can fix a car like it’s nobody’s business due to being self taught. He’s currently making more money than a lot of college educated people. I don’t like the stigma attached to people who don’t have a formal degree.

Pregnancy
Sucks. Flat out. It’s not glorious, beautiful, or rainbows and butterflies. It’s hell in a hand basket but completely worth it for the end result of a beautiful new life. I don’t have to enjoy my body being overtaken for 9 months though. That’s my stance and I’m stickin’ to it.

Time
There is never enough for some things and too much for others. Sometimes it drags, sometimes it speeds. I don’t really know how to think of it sometimes.

If you want 5 words, leave a comment and I’ll try to come up with 5 for you.

Baby Shower Worries

I was laying in bed this morning thinking of something I was curious what other people thought or if I’m being unreasonable.

There’s been a lot going on in the past 2 months all at once. I moved out, got married, and am expecting a baby in 3 weeks. My mom threw me a bridal shower on August 2nd when we moved which I was incredibly grateful for. Then she helped out a ton with buying things for the wedding and organizing which was also appreciated. She was going to throw me a baby shower but Randy’s mom told her at the bridal shower that since mom threw that, she’d take care of the baby shower. It sounds simple enough, right? The problem lies in the date she decided to have it. Mom asked right before the wedding since she hadn’t heard anything and she told us it would be on September 13th.

I don’t want to seem ungrateful but seriously? I think that’s incredibly late. I am due on September 22nd or 20th depending on which day you ask my Dr. That is a week before my due date and it’s not unusual to go into labor beforehand. Randy’s mom has jokingly said it’s OK if she’s at her own baby shower but I thought the whole point was to be prepared beforehand? It’s causing me to stress out because I can’t wait around to see what I may end up getting. I need to be prepared and right now I am definitely not.

I don’t have any hygienic items for her and no where to sleep for her b/c my mom has hinted at buying a P&P which is what we wanted. I’m sure if I took a stroll through the baby aisle I’d see a bunch of other things I may need. I feel so unprepared for her arrival. Am I being unreasonable here? I have a feeling if I go out and buy stuff it’d be wasteful since I may end up getting it at the baby shower and I’m trying to pinch pennies as it is. (I went and spent like $250 the day before my bridal shower since it was a surprise and could’ve saved myself a ton of money). Now I wonder, what do I do?

36 week checkup

I didn’t mean to sound angry or bitter in my last post. Just venting that pregnancy is not all the roses and butterflies some people attempt to make it out to be. I can’t wait to hold our daughter in my arms. Meeting her seems so incredibly far away although it’s only 3 1/2 weeks away until her due date.

I had my 36 week checkup yesterday and everything is still going well. She’s head down and I don’t see her moving any time soon. She is surrounded by a nice amount of fluid and has a heart beat of 117bpm. She’s very active and my BP is excellent. I gained 2 lbs this week (EWW). I just need to remember soon it will be off. My apartment sized washer is in so Randy and I are going to pick it up tomorrow. Then I am going to prep my cloth diapers. I’m excited over diapers. Wow. LOL. I also really need to organize all the clothes I have in garbage bags. My shower is on the 13th which is cutting it VERY close to the due date but I’m grateful. I need to get something for her to sleep in soon though, otherwise Randy is going to the couch.

Life is decent otherwise. My unemployment ran out so our income got slashed by about $600/month but we’ll manage. Don’t we always? I’m working on ChaCha daily and Randy is doing over time plus we’re just making sure not to splurge too often on unnecessary items. I’ve definitely learned in life where there is a will there is a way.

Pregnancy is

Now that I’m coming to the end of my pregnancy I’m going to tell you my experience on what pregnancy is. *I’m tired so venting is going to feel good*

Pregnancy is….

Oily skin
Extreme fatigue no matter how much sleep you get
Breaking down bawling in Walmart for no reason
Having to pee 15 times a day and 6 of those being at night
Not being able to sleep without tossing and turning 15 times in 2 hours
Forgetting what sex is due to comfort being an issue
None of your clothes fitting anymore
Wearing flip flops every day due to swollen feet
Having someone pick up things off the ground because your belly is in the way
Forgetting what your feet look like
Getting yelled at for carrying a laundry basket up the stairs
People forgetting that you exist and revolve every conversation about the baby

Can’t you tell I loooooooove being pregnant?