Baby Shower Worries

by Amanda on Aug.29, 2009, under Life, Rant

I was laying in bed this morning thinking of something I was curious what other people thought or if I’m being unreasonable.

There’s been a lot going on in the past 2 months all at once. I moved out, got married, and am expecting a baby in 3 weeks. My mom threw me a bridal shower on August 2nd when we moved which I was incredibly grateful for. Then she helped out a ton with buying things for the wedding and organizing which was also appreciated. She was going to throw me a baby shower but Randy’s mom told her at the bridal shower that since mom threw that, she’d take care of the baby shower. It sounds simple enough, right? The problem lies in the date she decided to have it. Mom asked right before the wedding since she hadn’t heard anything and she told us it would be on September 13th.

I don’t want to seem ungrateful but seriously? I think that’s incredibly late. I am due on September 22nd or 20th depending on which day you ask my Dr. That is a week before my due date and it’s not unusual to go into labor beforehand. Randy’s mom has jokingly said it’s OK if she’s at her own baby shower but I thought the whole point was to be prepared beforehand? It’s causing me to stress out because I can’t wait around to see what I may end up getting. I need to be prepared and right now I am definitely not.

I don’t have any hygienic items for her and no where to sleep for her b/c my mom has hinted at buying a P&P which is what we wanted. I’m sure if I took a stroll through the baby aisle I’d see a bunch of other things I may need. I feel so unprepared for her arrival. Am I being unreasonable here? I have a feeling if I go out and buy stuff it’d be wasteful since I may end up getting it at the baby shower and I’m trying to pinch pennies as it is. (I went and spent like $250 the day before my bridal shower since it was a surprise and could’ve saved myself a ton of money). Now I wonder, what do I do?

9 Comments for this entry

Kecia
August 29th, 2009 on 11:35 am
Can you to talk to Randy’s mom about doing it earlier? Maybe the weekend before? Also, maybe you could just go purchase the essentials now, and create a baby registry at Wal-Mart for the rest. Talk to your mom about possibly getting the P&P before the shower, in the off chance Gracie arrives early.

I’d be stressing out in this situation as well, as I’m sure you want everything you could possibly need before she gets here.
Shauna
August 29th, 2009 on 11:38 am
I think it’s late to be honest. I had mine at 32 weeks. It takes a while to prepare for a baby and be organized. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure if you had it on Sept 13th you’d be fine (unless you go into labor beforehand) but even so some people wait until after the baby is born for their showers.

Have you discussed your concern with Randy’s mom?
Kelley
August 29th, 2009 on 12:00 pm
I don’t think it’s rude or ungrateful at all to ask to have the shower a little earlier. You have enough on your plate as it is! If the date can’t be changed you could go ahead and buy some of the things that you really need and keep your receipts to return them if you get duplicate items?

Since I went into labor early, we didn’t get to have our shower and there were still lots of things we needed. We ended up having to make a trip to Walmart after she was born. Spent a ton of money but it was fun
Ashley
August 29th, 2009 on 12:45 pm
I had mine exactly one month before my due date, and she still didn’t have a place to sleep until the day she was born and Zach and his Mom went to buy it. I was so stressed about not having my shower done earlier, but once it was over I felt much better. I think the 13th is pretty close, and if it would make you feel better definitely ask to have it earlier. But remember making it too last minute you run the chance of not as many people being able to come.
Anna
August 29th, 2009 on 4:15 pm
Honestly, if there’s something you think you need for the baby just get it. Especially the shampoos, diapers, onesies type of things because no matter how many you get at the shower, you WILL need more.

Just ask your mom if she’s going to get it for you. Or tell her, I’m going to get this item today, do you want to go? Maybe she’ll just tell you or end up buying it for you.

Also, talk to Randy’s mom and explain to her your concerns. I’m sure she will understand.
Holly
August 29th, 2009 on 5:46 pm
I don’t think what you’re wanting is unreasonable either, a week before your due date IS very late! I’d be concerned too. I like Anna’s idea of just asking you mum if she’s planing on getting a certain item for you. I’m sure she would understand if you explained why you wanted to know, or to have things in lots of time.
Caity
August 29th, 2009 on 6:38 pm
I agree with Anna. I wouldn’t cause trouble or waves by trying to make plans to move the shower. You’re always going to need more of these things, so stock up on some now and then get more things later!
Cryssi
August 30th, 2009 on 11:09 am
I don’t think there’s any harm in asking her to do it earlier. Just tell her you’re concerned that you won’t have enough time to get everything ready for your baby’s arrival.

Plus, like Anna said, all of your essential items you’ll need tons of so there’s no harm in getting prepared before the shower

It will all work out. Don’t worry too much or you definitely might have her early!
Angel
August 30th, 2009 on 1:48 pm
I agree with Anna & Caity wholeheartedly. I would bring it up with Randy’s mother because a week before is entirely too late. It’s putting a lot of stress on you and the baby. I would just discuss and earlier date with her or ask why she wants to have it so late.