The past stings
by Amanda on Feb.16, 2010, under Life
My twitter followers should know this already but our entire tax refund was taken on both the state and federal levels to pay for spousal support to Randy’s ex. I really don’t want to get into ALL the details about how much bullshit this whole situation is BUT we were expecting $6800 or so and she is now basking in it, plus her tax refund. It makes my blood boil and it stings knowing that she gets that money that she is definitely not entitled to.
I wrote a past entry about it with details but in short they were married a month and she got knocked up by another guy but Randy didn’t show up to court while he was in the halfway house 3 hours away so he got a ruling against him and it didn’t get terminated for almost 2 years at $75/week. He now owes about $300 to her and then that will be done. I can file an injured spouse form but like we both said, why? They’ll just take it next year from his portion and it’s better for both of us to just let this finish itself out and put her in the past completely. Karma will bite her in the ass in the future. He fully admits she was his biggest mistake, even moreso than him going to prison. I keep telling myself that she may have taken his money but we have each other, our beautiful daughter, and money will continue to come in our direction from his hard earned paychecks.
On the other note here, this means we are now stuck here a bit longer than we anticipated. We owe my parents for our vehicle and then we have to save up to move out again, which gets rather pricey as many may know. *sigh* Being grown up is definitely no fun.
February 16th, 2010 on 11:21 pm
Wow, I’m so sorry to hear this!
I think the whole spousal support thing is a crock. If they aren’t together anymore I really think its silly…. Luckily he only has $300 more then hes done.. and u guys can be done with her/it. how annoying!!! $6800 would have been a huge chunk and I’m sure well needed with the new baby!
February 16th, 2010 on 11:44 pm
You know, I don’t even know you personally and I’m so proud of you two! What you just said in this post should make all your haters kick rocks! The fact you two are letting it go is a very grown up thing. If it’s a court order, she is going to get it eventually, so why not just get it over with and move on quicker from the whole ordeal
It royally sucks that you lost out on almost $7,000, but you know what, you are right. You have eachother and your beautiful daughter, and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters!
February 17th, 2010 on 1:52 am
Wow. That’s terrible!
I agree with Heather, you will still be better off in the long-run.
“money will continue to come in our direction from his hard earned paychecks.” <- is exactly right.
February 17th, 2010 on 5:10 am
Ah, that’s a bummer. Almost done paying her, than she can be forgotten forever.
February 17th, 2010 on 9:50 am
I am so sorry Manda. Thank god she’s almost out of your lives for good. *hug*
February 17th, 2010 on 2:02 pm
Wow, I can’t believe that things like this really can happen. I’m so sorry, Manda. Good for you for being the bigger person in all of this. Your optimism really is encouraging time and time again.
February 19th, 2010 on 4:39 am
Wow, sorry to hear about this, that is A LOT of money.
February 20th, 2010 on 11:48 am
Aw hun that is alot of money, can’t believe this has happened to you, only married a month and he has to pay that much! wow!